Just about the easiest thing to do when one fails is to look for someone, or something, to blame. And if we can’t find a person or circumstance to blame, we try to justify why we didn’t make it. Almost always, we don’t accept responsibility for things that happen to us, especially when it’s about failure.
This is the reason why most people can’t achieve success. They can’t even take responsibility for what happens to them, or their lives, in the first place. By refusing ownership of mistakes or poor judgments leading to failure, we unwittingly put ourselves in a corner where there’s no way out. We are only bound to sink deeper in failure when that happens.
The road to success is filled with risks. But when we accept responsibility for the outcome of our actions, we become more open to learning from mistakes, and we treat risks as opportunities for improving ourselves. Blaming others is a retreat without even taking a look at what happened, and understand where we made a mistake, and know how to avoid the same mistakes when we tread on the same path.
This tendency to blame others blocks off potential allies in the accomplishment of tasks, especially when it requires teamwork. Blaming a colleague will antagonize him or her; nobody will want to work with you, or want you on the team.
Justifying might make you sound good when you’re not. It’s the circumstances, and not your fault, is how you would put it. But justifying doesn’t help you at all in the accomplishment of your goals. When you try to point out reasons on why you failed, you are also closing the doors to discovering where you could have done right.
Success doesn’t happen overnight. In fact, the big winners are the ones who persevered and plodded on no matter how many times they stumbled and fell. Examine their lives and you can’t find a single individual who whined and complained and blamed each time they had to hurdle an obstacle.
Each invention that we take for granted today was a product of patient work, grit and perseverance. We might not be aspiring to make earth-shaking discoveries in technology, but we can apply this simple principle in our lives to become happier, fulfilled and successful in our ventures. Simply quit the blame game.